The Gifts of Sadness

Whenever I have cried and tried to express my vulnerable emotions in front of people, be it my family or my partner, they have time and again said such things to me-

  1. You need to be strong.
  2. Why do you cry like a baby all the time?
  3. You are too emotional, too sensitive, too weak. 
  4. Why do you make other people suffer through your emotional drama all the time?
  5. Your extreme emotional breakdowns are too hard to handle for us.
  6. If you want to survive in this world, you need to toughen up!
  7. Why are you so depressed and pessimistic about everything?

Sometimes they say this out of love and care for me, but mostly- out of frustration and irritation from me.

Today, I have found myself stuck in the middle of something similar, an emotionally overwhelming and vulnerable state. I am not in my city and somehow ended up with wrong people and places. Again. 

And here, sitting alone at the metro station and crying shamelessly- 

I am realising something for the first time today.

CRYING IS OKAY.

It’s not something that makes us weak or pathetic.

It’s something that makes us- HUMAN.

Crying doesn’t mean that I’m scared to face this tough situation, it just means that I need to take it all out for once, empty my heart for once, and then I’ll get back on my feet- ready to fight again.

CRYING should be normalised.

It’s OKAY to feel sad and it’s OKAY to express the sadness.

I would like to share with you the most beautiful thing that I have learned in this journey.

THE GIFTS OF SADNESS

The precious gifts that I have received from my Sadness-

  1. The gift of inner strength.
  2. The gift of Faith.
  3. The gift of empathy.

Every time when I pour my heart out and express all the uncomfortable feelings, I come out stronger as a person. My faith in God, my faith in Love, my faith in the Magic of this universe, is restored and gets strengthened. And the best one is- I can feel more empathy toward other sentient beings, I now understand people and connect with them better.

So I promise to myself, that if someone cries and expresses her sadness and pain in front of me, 

I’ll embrace her, love her, appreciate her for being so strong and brave- 

to have put her shield down and being vulnerable.

This little girl is getting ready to shine so bright,

that the light will spread across the miles and skies.

I’ll tell her- she’s beautiful, she’s lovely

with all her red cheeks and shiny tears.

Author: Taahira Kisna 

Publisher: Kosha Life

6 comments

Ever since during my childhood, when I would cry, my caregivers would shrug me off saying.. be strong. You can’t be crying. And then as an adult I ended up having a lot emotion built up. And I chose to allow my daughter to cry and release it all. Thank you for the wonderful post Taahira. You are just one of a kind

Charu March 31, 2021

Ever since during my childhood, when I would cry, my caregivers would shrug me off saying.. be strong. You can’t be crying. And then as an adult I ended up having a lot emotion built up. And I chose to allow my daughter to cry and release it all. Thank you for the wonderful post Taahira. You are just one of a kind

Charu March 31, 2021

Wow! This is incredible! It open my mind to a new perspective of looking at our emotions. Great job!

Anirudh March 20, 2021

Wow.. This is so heart touching and beautiful ✨I am going to practice this in my life, definitely!

Sandeep Kaur Sandhu March 20, 2021

Hi taahira.. such a nice sharing.. i definitely feel crying should be normalised.. i feel it is a way of clearing out the emotions which otherwise never find expression and start rotting within..kudos to u and more strength to u my friend!

Shubhanu Purohit March 20, 2021

BEAUTIFUL 💖

Ritika March 20, 2021

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